Honest teaching, gentle counsel, and a community walking the relationship road together. 40+ years married, 20+ years of retreats. Rooted in Scripture, kept warm by grace.
40 years married20 years of retreatsChapel of Life London10+ books published
Different By Design6 evenings29 June – 4 July 2026
From the book
“Your differences are not the problem. They are the design.”
Each week
Pastor O ministers Sundays at Chapel of Life, then comes back across the week on Instagram for honest conversations and prayer. Nothing slick. Just real, regular faith.
In the chapelSunday Service with Pastor O
Pastor O ministers every Sunday from 10am at Chapel of Life. Gather for worship, the Word, and the family.
Our Leaders · Senior Pastors, Chapel of Life
Pastor O is an author, teacher, and pastoral leader whose ministry spans more than two decades of marriage counselling, Christian writing, and the pulpit at Chapel of Life London. Carol(Mummy O) brings a counsellor’s discernment and a quiet strength to every couple they walk with.
Together, they have walked hundreds of couples through preparation, crisis, restoration, and joy. They lead from lived experience, not theory.
Married 40 yearsTwo childrenTwo grandchildren17 years pastoring London
Stay close
Pastor O sends a brief, prayerful note once a month. A Scripture, a thought, and first dibs on what's coming next. Nothing more.
Different By Design · The flagship programme
Equipping Christian singles and couples to approach, prepare for, and enter marriage as God intended
Walk away with clarity, confidence, and Christ-centered wisdom to enter or build a marriage that thrives even in today's chaotic world.
For
SinglesDating & engagedMarried couples
Next cohort
29 June – 4 July 2026
7–9pm UK
30+ couples transformed
DBD Daily · a page from the bookFrom Different By Design
A handful of the principles Pastor O has taught for over 25 years. Plain-spoken, biblical, and tested by lived experience.
Reserve a place
The live virtual programme or a weekend away. Secure checkout takes a minute either way. Refunds and T&Cs apply per programme.
Different By Design
Six evenings of biblical teaching, real conversation, and tools you can use the next morning. For singles, dating, and married.
Early Bird
£49
£99 regular
Couples’ Retreat 2026
Three days to step away. All-inclusive accommodation, meals, seminars, vow renewal, and an Afro-Caribbean themed celebration.
Per couple
£600
Have a question first, or want to talk to someone before booking?
Get in touch
Couples' Village Meeting
The storms may come, and it may get rough at times, but we have each other.
Watch·Chapel of Life YouTube
Pastor O ministers every Sunday at Chapel of Life. Catch up on recent messages or settle in for a full service.
Mid-week·@thepastoro on Instagram
Honest conversations on relationships, prayer pauses, and weekly Q&A. Drop in live or catch up after.
@thepastoroEach week
No script, no studio, no slick edit. Pastor O takes the questions you’d only ask in private and answers them in the open, with grace, scripture, and forty years of pastoral experience.
Mondays · 8pmTuesdays · LunchReels weekly
Follow @thepastoroAlso from Pastor O
Recent on @thepastoro
COUPLES' RETREAT
Save the date17–19 July 2026 · Peterborough
Three days to step away from everything that demands your attention. Accommodation, meals, seminars, vow-renewal ceremony, and an Afro-Caribbean themed celebration all included.
StayMealsSeminarsVow renewalCelebration night
Books·By Pastor O
Marriage, faith, persistence, and the everyday work of following Christ. Each title carries the same plain-spoken Pastor O voice you know from Sundays at the chapel.
Editor’s pick·The book behind the programme
Marriage: Two Hearts, One Heartbeat
Frequently asked
What people ask before joining Different By Design, the retreat, or our Sunday gatherings. Anything else, drop us a line.
Both. The course is built for singles preparing for marriage, couples dating or engaged, and married couples wanting realignment. The framework meets you exactly where you are.
Stay close
Pastor O’s monthly note. No noise.
